I’ve been working on the small business and continuing my experiments…
For example, I started to show my face a little bit more. That one’s hard for me for a few reasons:
a) I’m looking much older
b) I was never one to really show photos of myself. I was a graffiti artist, remember? Back in my day (hahah omfg), nobody showed their faces; most of us stayed anonymous. Plus I’m mostly an introvert and prefer to go unnoticed.
c) It feels SO uncomfortable.
But in doing so, I hope to be more comfortable; I really just want to get it over with. Small businesses seem to blend in with personal brands if there’s only one person running it. I also hope that people can see that I’m an actual person; I want them to see me for who I am, and in doing so can make a decision whether to buy from me or not.
It’s better that way I think; better to know right away who likes and supports you rather than be polite for a long fucking time.
Of course there are some slight anxieties like: will people stop supporting me when they find out that I work in the adult entertainment industry? Will the spiritual people think it’s gross and dirty?
It’s hard but we really have to stop caring about what people think and just go for it, otherwise we become slaves to other people’s opinions. They might not even be thinking that at all, it’s our own ego mind creating these ‘what if’ scenarios.
I’ve come to realize that the right people WILL be attracted to you so don’t worry about those who aren’t.
Speaking of being polite, I’ve decided to unfollow a lot of other people; mostly other crystal shop owners. They’re all great, I just don’t want to be influenced by them; I want and desire to have my own voice.
I read an interesting post on Instagram regarding this very same topic. It’s from entrepreneur Melyssa Griffin and you can read it here. I’ve also pasted it here for your convenience:
A lot of people ask me why I’m following ZERO people on social media. Here’s why…
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It’s not because I’m trying to project some kind of Kanye West superiority (I worry it comes off that way, but I gotta do me).
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And it’s not because there aren’t any good accounts to follow. Instagram is bursting with creativity!
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Instead, it’s because it’s easy for me to forget my own voice and value when I’m constantly inundated with everyone else’s. And I know that if I’m going to create my biggest impact in this world, I need to tap deeper into my own mission, rather than becoming a watered down version of someone else’s.
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To me, there are seasons when we are meant to gain inspiration from the world, and seasons where we are meant to put our heads down and use that inspiration. That’s where true art and impact come from — honoring the gifts YOU inherently have.
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So, every few months, I do a social media anti-binge where I unfollow everyone on Facebook and Instagram. And when I feel creatively rejuvenated (usually after 2-3 months flyin’ solo), I slowly refollow people.
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To be honest, I think a social media anti-binge is something everyone should try! It’s a great cure for things like…
🔸 Feeling like everyone else is more successful, creative, or [fill in the blank] than you.
🔸 Forgetting what your voice sounds like. Not seeing your value. Creating things that look and sound like everyone else.
🔸 Wasting time following hundreds of accounts that don’t add value or empowerment to your life.
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My criteria for following anyone on social media? I ask myself this question, “Is following this account getting me closer to or further from the person I want to be?”
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Would you ever try a Social Media Anti-Binge? Does social media sometimes make you feel like everyone else is doing better than you? Do you find that social media makes it harder to find your voice because you feel like you need to be like everyone else? Leave a comment below and let me know your thoughts. 🤓😊⬇️ All love! -M ❤️
Anyways, I don’t have much to share; being an already quiet person who’s gotten even more quiet. I’m just thinking of ways to get my online crystal shop out there in the world wide web. We have to dream the impossible for ourselves, even if it sounds cliché or ridiculous; for in doing so we stretch our imagination a bit further. I believe that the universe will meet us there when we decide that we are limitless.
xo
