This kind of stuff is prevalent in porn (and maybe even dating) unfortunately. Since I can’t articulate it through words but experience it on a regular basis (mostly in online spaces related to sex work).
But first, let’s define the word fetishize
verb
So I asked Gemini:
What is the Difference between Racism and Fetishization of a Particular Race or Ethnicity?
Gemini’s response:
While both concepts are rooted in the dehumanization of a specific group, the primary difference lies in the mechanism of erasure: one uses exclusion and hostility, while the other uses objectification and a “positive” stereotype.
1. Racism: The Mechanism of Hierarchy
Racism is a system of exclusion and superiority. It functions by casting a particular group as “less than,” “dangerous,” or “inferior.”
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The Goal: To maintain a social, political, or economic hierarchy.
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The Effect: It strips a person of their humanity by viewing them as a threat or a burden to be marginalized.
2. Fetishization: The Mechanism of Objectification
Fetishization is a system of consumption and projection. It functions by casting a particular group as “exotic,” “ideal,” or “hyper-sexualized” based on their race.
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The Goal: To satisfy a personal fantasy or a psychological “itch” through another person’s identity.
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The Effect: It strips a person of their humanity by viewing them as a prop or a script rather than a multidimensional individual. The person’s actual personality, history, and boundaries are ignored in favor of the “aesthetic” they provide to the observer.
The Intersection: Dehumanization
| Feature | Racism | Fetishization |
| Vibe | “I don’t want you near me.” | “I want you near me as an object.” |
| View of the Individual | A stereotype to be feared or hated. | A stereotype to be possessed or consumed. |
| The Result | The individual is invisible because of hate. | The individual is invisible because of a fantasy. |
In short, racism hates you for what it thinks you are; fetishization “loves” you for what it wants you to be. In both cases, the actual person—the multidimensional “Goddess”—is never actually seen.
Edit: I generated some book covers in Nano Banana 2 inside Flow Veo3 to go along with this post.



